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Re: co-sleeping

>My own feeling, safety issues aside, is that it is another bad habit that
>gets harder and harder to break and one which creates further sleep
>deprivation for all concerned.

Yes, it's a horrible habit.  I can't get my 30-something-year-old husband
out of my bed.  He insists on sharing sleep with me.  Imagine that.  I
know, I should let him just cry it out, but I've allowed him to do this for
eight years now.

Seriously, can we dispense with the "all concerneds" and such?  Can we
educate families about the actual risks AND benefits of things like
co-sleeping (to the best of our knowledge, of course) and then allow them
to make those decisions for themselves?  Is it necessary to refer to
informed decisions as "bad habits"?  It concerns me when health
professionals mix fact with opinion with no clear indication as to what
tidbit goes where.

For what it's worth, I brought my son to bed with me for the first time on
his second night home from the hospital.  He was several weeks early and
had just spent some time in the NICU.  I'd just had an emergency c-section
and breastfeeding was off to a rotten start.  My husband and I practiced
excruciating care with our sleep arrangements, making them as safe as
possible.  Co-sleeping did not cause sleep deprivation.  In fact, we all
slept a lot better.  When my son was a bit over two, he decided on his own
that he wanted his own sleep space.  He's welcome back in our bed whenever
he wants, but tends to only return there when he's not feeling well, which
isn't often.  Far from being a bad habit, it seems the arrangement solved a
lot of problems for us, was an enjoyable time in our lives, and ended when
the child decided he was ready to move on.  In my book, that's a job well-done.

Danie
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